How much do you want to experience peace of mind, a healthy body and a joyful heart?

If you knew that there was a definite way of obtaining that, wouldn’t you be willing to do what it takes?

Just for a moment, imagine how beautiful the world would appear to you if nothing you see or hear or experience disturbed your peace.

No matter what changes the body was going through or what situation you would find yourself in, you would remain in a perfect state of peace knowing the perfection of each moment.

This is not fantasy. It is real and achievable.

But to get to this place, we must first become aware of what it is that causes us not to be in a state of peace. Hence, we must first learn to observe our own thoughts, feelings and behaviors.

As we begin to honestly allow ourselves to observe, we start to see the patterns of mind that drive our behavior. Eventually we will come to understand and feel that the cause is emotionally based and it is motivated by deep wounds that are either suppressed or denied at a soul level.

Let’s say for example that someone has a compulsion to drink access amounts of alcohol regularly, and they are unwilling to accept the damage they are doing to their physical body. Unless they are aware of the underlying emotional reasons why they drink, they will continue to indulge in the behavior, even to the extent of causing harm to the body. But, once the emotional cause is recognized and felt, the person’s desire for alcohol ceases. It may be that the emotion was related to overpowering feelings of grief felt from a traumatic childhood. Emotions that the person felt they couldn’t handle or understand. So in order to cope with those feelings of deep grief, they learned to deny them by numbing themselves with alcohol.

Someone in a state of denial cannot effectively change the behavior for any sustainable period of time. Unless the suppressed emotions are felt and released, the behavior will continue to occur. Hence, whether the condition is being experienced as a physical or emotional symptom, the approach remains the same. Unfortunately, many people even if they recognize the underlying emotion that is driving their behavior, they have an aversion to feeling the emotion. This is often so, because in the beginning a person who starts to feel their painful emotion feels worse than before, since the emotion was previously numbed and denied by the use of a substance or a behavior.

If we remember that an emotion is just an emotion, than we become more willing to feel it. Some emotions are going to be easy to shift and we may only have to process it once or for a short period of time. However, if an emotion has been suppressed or denied for a long period of time it may take quite a while before the full emotional effects are released. Knowing this, if we want to truly heal on all levels, we must have faith and confidence in the process of healing and be willing to feel the emotion, no matter how long it takes or how uncomfortable it may feel. We must come to accept and understand that in order for us to come to a place of peace, we must first not only correct the mental errors but also clear the emotional blockages that have obscured the peace. Error enters us emotionally, never just intellectually. Therefore, it must be released the same way it entered.

If we resist, and attempt to talk ourselves out of it without addressing and feeling the underlying emotion, we will delay our progression. Hence, willingness and personal humility are the most important qualities that will assist us in moving forward toward complete healing of heart, mind and body.

Here’s a summary of four simple basic steps that will assist you greatly toward the healing of your heart, mind and body:

(1) Begin by bringing humility to all of your experiences and allow all feelings to be present in the process of discovering the true cause.

(2) As a feeling begins to arise, allow yourself to completely feel the emotion without judgment or the need to project it to another person. This begins the process of opening your soul so that the truth can enter. As you do this, if you remain in a state of complete acceptance, and stay with the feeling rather than engage the intellect, the underlying causal emotion that is supporting the disturbance, will come to the surface and you will be able to feel it. Again, it’s important to stay with the emotion and feel it completely no matter how painful it is. It is the only way to release it.

(3) Next, you have to be willing to be self reflective and honest and expose the false beliefs that support the negative emotion. Then you have to retrain the mind to accept only the beliefs and attitudes that are in alignment with truth and love.

(4) The next step is to completely forgive the past, present and the imagined future. Any emotional grievances, hurts and resentments that you may be holding onto, and anything which you believe was done to you has to be released and let go of. Otherwise, you will remain in bondage and suffering and they will obscure the peace and joy which you so much want to experience.

Also, any steps taken in maintaining a position of being right or being wronged, is a move toward denial, projection, and prolonged pain and suffering.

It is up to each one of us to choose to release the error at the causal level and become proactive in our healing journey, or we can avoid them and address them at the level of effect. But, the result of avoiding feeling our pain is that these feelings will continue to affect our life in every area. Hence, to choose one is to let go of the other. The one we will choose will be the one we value more.

It is indeed possible to be happy and be restored to peace.

On a final note it is helpful to remember that all emotions are temporary and no feeling has ever lasted forever, so ‘this too shall pass’. No matter how intense the feelings are, there is more to us than that; the deepest Truth is that we are not what we are feeling, but something so much more which is eternal, unchanging and beyond words.

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